I know, I know. It’s not very therapeutic or clinical of me to say it that bluntly as a therapist. BUT it’s so true!

I know how hard the first step is to even come to therapy and I know some of us hope that it’s all we gotta do but real talk? It’s only the beginning … be prepared to do some real digging and learning to get comfortable with the things that make you uncomfortable.

There are a million reasons we seek out the support and guidance of a stranger but the most common wished for outcome is that your life gets better.

Maybe you need to stop being a doormat to your family;

maybe you’re in a marriage that is verbally abusive or

maybe you’re just struggling with juggling it all.

All the time.

Or maybe you’re like most of us women and are having a hard time with anxiety.

Whatever the reason that made you came to therapy, the goal is always the same for all of us. To make your life better than what it was before you came in.

But here’s where the shit gets real. In order to be less of a doormat, be better at managing your family and your life, you will realize that what you’ve been doing, ain’t working.

This is where the “different shit” part comes in. You might have to put yourself out there in a braver way. Or maybe you start saying NO to every favor people ask of you … whatever it is, it will require you to start trying different solutions on for size to see what helps you feel better and helps you create the life you’ve been imagining.

That’s it! Super simple recipe yet tough to follow because we are creatures of habit and we don’t like doing new things that cause us discomfort. But I promise you that if you start doing the different stuff you and your therapist devise for you, your life will get better! And this my loves, is where the magic is. Until next time … start doing different shit!

Deborah Duley, MSW, LGSW is a licensed psychotherapist for women who struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, and imposter syndrome. Through her real-life experience and knowledge, her continual use of curse words and her easy to follow process, she’s here to inspire you and empower you, all while making it all feel like you’re just spending time with your bff! She’s a big believer that women need connection to heal and it’s in that relationship between her and her clients, where women begin to feel better and live better. And who doesn’t want that??

Her advice and suggestions have been featured on Huffington Post, Bustle, Romper, HelloFlo, Southern Maryland Woman Magazine and she has been a guest speaker for several women’s conferences and events. When she’s not creating magic with her clients, you can find her indulging in cooking, reading in her hammock, traveling and gardening. (Yes, she’s an old lady at heart!) Meet Deborah Duley & get ready to create the life you’ve always dreamed at www.empoweredconnections.net.